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The Shackles of Societal Expectations: What is up with those New Year’s Resolutions? 

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We all know that, as the clock strikes midnight and fireworks light up the sky, people around the world embark on the tradition of setting New Year’s resolutions. It’s a time-honored practice that symbolizes hope, renewal, and the chance to make positive changes in our lives. However, beneath the surface of these well-intentioned goals lies a troubling reality – many New Year’s resolutions are shaped by societal expectations, subtly influencing individuals to conform to arbitrary standards. In other words, many people across the globe engage in societal resolutioning at the beginning of a new year in hopes to conform, to be more accepted, to fit in better, to … well, the question is: why?  
Most of those resolutions are rounded in societal pressures and the importance of fostering authentic personal growth from the inside out is less of a focus in a world judging the outter appearance.  

The Pressure to Conform

Society often dictates what success, happiness, and fulfillment should look like, and this influence extends to the goals we set for ourselves in the new year. The pressure to conform to societal expectations can lead individuals to adopt resolutions that may not align with their true desires, values, or priorities. Whether it’s the pursuit of a certain body image, professional achievement, or relationship status, the external pressure to meet these standards can overshadow the pursuit of genuine happiness and well-being. All this is part of us trying to be a part of a society, even if we may not really enjoy that society.

The Myth of the “Perfect” Resolution 

Many New Year’s resolutions are centered around achieving a societal notion of perfection. From attaining the “ideal” body shape to securing a high-paying job or finding a romantic partner, these goals are often fueled by external expectations rather than personal fulfillment. The problem arises when individuals internalize these societal ideals, compromising their mental and emotional well-being in the process. The pursuit of perfection can lead to stress, anxiety, and a constant feeling of inadequacy, as individuals strive to meet standards that may be unrealistic or unattainable. There is no perfect resolution unless it is one that comes from the heart – your heart and could be engaged with at any point in time. Only then will you be able to hold on to that resolution – when it becomes a goal you are pursuing for the greater good of all, filled with self-love.  

The Importance of Authenticity

True personal growth comes from aligning one’s goals with authentic desires, values, and passions. Instead of succumbing to societal pressures, individuals should strive to set resolutions that resonate with their unique identity. This might involve redefining success on personal terms, prioritizing self-care, or focusing on meaningful relationships rather than adhering to conventional benchmarks. Authentic resolutions not only lead to a more genuine sense of accomplishment but also contribute to long-term happiness and fulfillment. This is where the focus needs to return to inner personal growth, as mentioned above. If you have a dream, an idea, and you feel it in your heart, connect it with your brain and your whole being desires it has a chance of becoming a goal. Now you need to authentically put all your energy behind this. For it, you do NOT need to proclaim it to the world (yes, that means social media) as that adds outside pressure and invites naysayers, and such. So, if you have a dream, a goal then the time for implementation is irrelevant, only your dedication to it matters.  
And in all that, we need to remember that we do NOT need to be new or be ‘refurbished’. We are quite perfect on our journey, if you ask me. Every day we change a little – if we allow it – and that does not mean we are ‘new’ we just add to our BEing.  

Breaking Free from the Mold 

Yes, let us talk about how to break free from the shackles of societal expectations. You can see that it’s crucial to reflect on individual values and aspirations. This involves questioning the origins of specific resolutions and evaluating whether they genuinely contribute to personal growth or are merely driven by external pressures. Embracing self-acceptance and celebrating individuality allows for the creation of resolutions that empower rather than confine.  

Thus, as we welcome a new year, it’s essential to critically examine the resolutions we set and the motivations behind them. The pursuit of personal growth should be rooted in authenticity, not in societal expectations that perpetuate the myth of perfection. By breaking free from the mold and embracing individuality, individuals can forge a path to self-discovery, resilience, and a more meaningful and fulfilling life. In the end, the most powerful resolutions are those that empower individuals to become the best versions of themselves, unburdened by the weight of external expectations. 


Rather than spouting out societal ideals and trying to conform to them, how about you remain true to who you really are (and if you are not sure, let us talk about that) so you can focus on sharing your essential self, your essence and your talents with the world?  
There is no one else like you … and we do not need you to be ‘new’, just YOU.  

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