As a highly sought-after divorce coach and relationship expert, how does leadership play a role in your daily life?
During a breakup and divorce, it’s very normal to feel lost, confused and overwhelmed. As The Divorce Coach, my role is to lead and guide people through their heartbreak and to empower them with the belief and the tools that they will need to come out the other side stronger and happier.
You’ve been a part of several media features and interviews about relationships, has your advice changed or evolved in ways over the years?
Before my marriage ended, I felt that divorce would mean failure and that I hadn’t tried hard enough. However, now having been through a divorce, I understand that this is far from the truth and for many different reasons too. Had I not been through it myself I would not have this insight or empathy.
How have your own personal stories shaped your business and approach to helping others?
I looked for help to guide me through my own divorce, but I struggled to find anything. So, I decided to combine my 15 years of coaching with my personal divorce experience to create a program to help me cope better. Everything I share now is exactly what I wish I’d had access to during my own breakup.
You speak internationally, so do you believe the advice you give on relationships and breakups is universal across the globe or does it vary from culture to culture or even country to country?
There are some differences such as culture and laws. However ultimately, we all crave love and connection as our number one human need. Being loving and kind towards each other is universally important.
How would you define leadership and in what ways do you consider yourself a leader in your field?
I believe leaders lead by example and with genuine integrity which is essential to inspire and empower others. I walk my talk and the tools I share with others is everything that I have proven to work for myself.
What’s the difference between you and a type of clinical counselor or psychologist?
My style of coaching is dynamic, and results focused. We only focus on their breakup story for the first session and then it’s all about letting go and moving on. It’s also not just 1-on-1 coaching as I have a variety of options including free guides and webinars, books, my podcast Heartbreak to Happiness, retreats and training Breakup and Divorce Coaches.
What do you study the most or how do you stay up to date in your field?
Every day I am learning new information from leaders in the personal development field. On my morning runs I listen to podcasts and audio books on a variety of self-help areas. I also am very involved with campaigning for positive changes in the family courts and with domestic abuse (my specialist area) in the UK so I’m up to date with the latest research and studies.
How do you lead out in the home with your own son so that he might be a part of a healthy romantic relationship someday? Are there little things you can do at any age?
I have clear values and boundaries at home, so he is clear on right and wrong. We have a strong emphasis on kindness and compassion which is rewarded as well as no tolerance for lies or being unkind. Kids are like sponges and absorb simple tools like how a smile will boost your mood and it’s wonderful when you see them applying these tools and helping others with them too.
How would you like to lead out more in the world? Any goals that you have where you measure or quantify your reach or results?
My business goal has always been to help as many people as I can to cope better with their breakups. I specifically aim to have 1000 Accredited Breakup and Divorce Coach Practitioners around the world by 2023. I am working hard to get my podcast into the top 20 in all countries and I would love to have more books and all selling in more languages. I would love to speak on more international stages and have another TV show too. This way I can reach more people, so they don’t have to struggle as I did during my own divorce. I have a way to go but I’m working hard and as always… I’m dreaming big!
Sara Davison, best known as ‘The Divorce Coach’, is an award-winning authority on break-ups, and life-empowerment. For over 20 years she has been coaching clients cope with challenges including heartbreak, betrayal, conflict, confidence building, co-parenting, being effective in the workplace during divorce and dating again. She has been a regularly featured in TV programs such as ITV’s This Morning, BBC Two’s Victoria Derbyshire, as well as Daily Mail and Stylist magazine. She is the #1 bestselling author of Uncoupling: How to Survive and Thrive After Breakup and Divorce, and The Split: Breakup to Breakthrough in 30 Days or Less.
Sara has now created a coaching community of 180 Divorce Coaches spanning 13 countries and five continents. At a government level, Sara also consults on marriage and divorce legislation, most recently the divorce law reform with The Ministry of Justice. Sara has earned more than a few awards including the ‘The Best Self-Development Coach’ from the Best You Expo, ‘Best Self Development Coach’ at the UK Enterprise Awards, and ‘Best Self Development Coach’ at the SME New 2021 Enterprise Awards. Most recently Sara launched the now #1 podcast Heartbreak to Happiness, an empowering podcast designed to help men and women struggling with the pain of relationship breakdown.
You can learn more about Sara Davison at www.saradavison.com